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Follow your heart but take your brain with you.

It takes a person a life time to discover the difference between, what he actually and precisely wants and what his interests and abilities require him to do. More than 50% of the wandering youth of our country certainly has no idea of which field takes them to accomplish their goals (if by chance they have any). One of the most important aspects i.e. potential, of a student is ignored like the petty appendix in one’s body. It practically took us three generations, after the independence, to rise above the factor of parental imposed aims –which, by the way, still exist in our middle and lower classes – and we are yet to utterly demolish the slogan: ‘doctors & engineers-only’.

Among all these dramatic inclinations in scopes of studies, we face a serious issue of lack of counseling, and therefore, while we are stuck between what our interests might be and what we are required to do for earning, our sense of academic indulgence dies a slow death. Yes, ‘good-earning’ is another major factor of our society that is injected in our minds since birth; a man is naturally labeled as ineligible, through all the facets of life, if he does not earn good money. Although money does provide sustainability to one’s life but not at the cost of his potential being flushed down the drain.

Tackling such issues of life particularly pertaining your academics and personal growth has more stern obstacles than the few mentioned above, like the obstructions of cultural values, religious mindsets or communal patterns. And if we somehow do overcome these conventional wars, we are bound to be entangled in the threads of interest and aims. For instance, the aim is to be a biochemist but the interest is to become a parliamentarian or the aim is to be a programmer in IT but the interest is to do Additional Mathematics, or the aim is to be a pharmacist but the interest is to run a confectionary (Real-life examples). This type of contradiction, in behavior and mind, is now common and needs to be dealt with immediately.

Psychological counselling is one way to treat it. Counseling in psychological aspect, focuses on facilitating personal and interpersonal functioning across the life span; particularly paying attention to emotional, social, vocational, educational, health-related, developmental, and organizational concerns. Counseling psychology helps people gain control over their feelings and direct them. Similarly career counseling helps you discover your potential and aims and design a path for them.

In the developing countries like ours, career counseling needs a strict consideration. We definitely need to develop the sense of directing ourselves in a straight path, or else going astray is too easy since MBA needs no specification in bachelor’and Arts is open for all Science students. Universities like Comsats, NUST, JUW, FAST, NED and others are now seen more active in conducting counseling seminars within the institutes, hiring freelance consultants and counselors. In the world of high intellectual competency, we need more than just monthly or annual seminars. We need ‘psychological and career counseling’ introduced as a certified part of every school curriculum. Mental growth is as important as physical growth; counseling sessions should be given the same importance as the physical training sessions in schools and colleges. And finally psychological counseling assessments and tests should be made a part of these sessions to insure desired outcome.

People born in society such as ours are more likely to follow trends rather than create their own. The influence of our surrounding is so strong that we are dragged into the direst of confusions. Knowing what you want in life is actually a blessing, but not knowing how to achieve what you want will lead you to the path destined to a catastrophic end full of oblivion. You might love using fork, but you can never eat a bowl of soup with it. And that is exactly why, today, we are in a desperate need of such counseling, because it teaches us to figure out what our heart wants and then follow it but in the way Alfred Adler states it: “Follow your heart but take your brain with you.”

 

 

 

Follow your heart but take your brain with you.

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October 13, 2019

Follow your heart but take your brain with you.

It takes a person a life time to discover the difference between, what he actually and precisely wants and what his interests and abilities require him to do. More than 50% of the wandering youth of our country certainly has no idea of which field takes them to accomplish their goals (if by chance they have any). One of the most important aspects i.e. potential, of a student is ignored like the petty appendix in one’s body. It practically took us three generations, after the independence, to rise above the factor of parental imposed aims –which, by the way, still exist in our middle and lower classes – and we are yet to utterly demolish the slogan: ‘doctors & engineers-only’.

Among all these dramatic inclinations in scopes of studies, we face a serious issue of lack of counseling, and therefore, while we are stuck between what our interests might be and what we are required to do for earning, our sense of academic indulgence dies a slow death. Yes, ‘good-earning’ is another major factor of our society that is injected in our minds since birth; a man is naturally labeled as ineligible, through all the facets of life, if he does not earn good money. Although money does provide sustainability to one’s life but not at the cost of his potential being flushed down the drain.

Tackling such issues of life particularly pertaining your academics and personal growth has more stern obstacles than the few mentioned above, like the obstructions of cultural values, religious mindsets or communal patterns. And if we somehow do overcome these conventional wars, we are bound to be entangled in the threads of interest and aims. For instance, the aim is to be a biochemist but the interest is to become a parliamentarian or the aim is to be a programmer in IT but the interest is to do Additional Mathematics, or the aim is to be a pharmacist but the interest is to run a confectionary (Real-life examples). This type of contradiction, in behavior and mind, is now common and needs to be dealt with immediately.

Psychological counselling is one way to treat it. Counseling in psychological aspect, focuses on facilitating personal and interpersonal functioning across the life span; particularly paying attention to emotional, social, vocational, educational, health-related, developmental, and organizational concerns. Counseling psychology helps people gain control over their feelings and direct them. Similarly career counseling helps you discover your potential and aims and design a path for them.

In the developing countries like ours, career counseling needs a strict consideration. We definitely need to develop the sense of directing ourselves in a straight path, or else going astray is too easy since MBA needs no specification in bachelor’and Arts is open for all Science students. Universities like Comsats, NUST, JUW, FAST, NED and others are now seen more active in conducting counseling seminars within the institutes, hiring freelance consultants and counselors. In the world of high intellectual competency, we need more than just monthly or annual seminars. We need ‘psychological and career counseling’ introduced as a certified part of every school curriculum. Mental growth is as important as physical growth; counseling sessions should be given the same importance as the physical training sessions in schools and colleges. And finally psychological counseling assessments and tests should be made a part of these sessions to insure desired outcome.

People born in society such as ours are more likely to follow trends rather than create their own. The influence of our surrounding is so strong that we are dragged into the direst of confusions. Knowing what you want in life is actually a blessing, but not knowing how to achieve what you want will lead you to the path destined to a catastrophic end full of oblivion. You might love using fork, but you can never eat a bowl of soup with it. And that is exactly why, today, we are in a desperate need of such counseling, because it teaches us to figure out what our heart wants and then follow it but in the way Alfred Adler states it: “Follow your heart but take your brain with you.”